zeldathemes
What Dreams May Come
I'm obsessed with cats, books, music, pretty things, Misha Collins, Supernatural, Doctor Who, and I'm a little loony. I post a mish-mash of random things that happen to tickle my fancy. I tag the posts that make me happy as "you unicorn you". Stay strong. <3 *Posts may be triggering*


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Yo, every time I see your icon I'm like "daaaaaaaaaaaamn" cause you're gorgeous.


raptorthedoctor:

Yo! Thanks! I don’t know what your icon right now is D: Did you draw that? 

Better be careful though. The Laurasaurus might decide to eat you for this :P

While I very much appreciate this because, yes, damn, she is a gorgeous, gorgeous Kitty…

Mine.

  #kat    #baby    #<3    #But really Jenny you're fabulous    #MINE    #ALL MINE    #MWAHAHAHAHAHA  

thegirlwiththeloontattoo:

People say “phase” like impermanence means insignificance. Show me a permanent state of the self.

  #for bad days  
lustfulprincessluna:

lanaisqueen:

kimchiiandtea:

timereaper:

edenhain:

officialdogblog:

totallytransparent:

Semi Transparent Lips &amp; Nails (changes colour with your blog background - drag it!)


OH YMG OSH THIS IS NOT WHAT I EXPECTED IT TO BE

This. Is bad ass.

Ohmygoodness, it looks so cool on my page!

omg ogmomg THIS IS NOT WHAT I EXPECTED AT ALL


Beautiful.

lustfulprincessluna:

lanaisqueen:

kimchiiandtea:

timereaper:

edenhain:

officialdogblog:

totallytransparent:

Semi Transparent Lips & Nails (changes colour with your blog background - drag it!)

OH YMG OSH THIS IS NOT WHAT I EXPECTED IT TO BE

This. Is bad ass.

Ohmygoodness, it looks so cool on my page!

omg ogmomg THIS IS NOT WHAT I EXPECTED AT ALL

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Beautiful.

  #kat    #baby    #<3  
  #for bad days    #this is important    #note to self  

freshcleanfit:

A few months ago I made this post with wintry animals, but now it is summertime and here are some summer-loving animals checking in on you! be good to yourselves! :)

  #for bad days    #this is important  

vikinggoth:

One of these things is not like the others…

  #this is acute    #acute angel  

hellasterek:

 (via felicitysmock)

Let’s make Dean in gym shorts the most reblogged picture on Tumblr.

somethingfangirly:

joanne-the-fallen-angel-of-pizza:

idgit-pies-and-puppydogeyes:

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“Challenge accepted!” —SPN fandom.

omg this is still going

IT’S A RULE TO REBLOG EVERY TIME IT SHOWS UP ON YOUR DASH.

i’m not even in the supernatural fandom and i’m still going to reblog

lost count of the times i’ve reblogged this

I swear like half of those reblogs is me

…………………..it’s still not fucking broken 

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insidemeinwords:

Keep On Walking - Gabrielle Aplin

insidemeinwords:

Keep On Walking - Gabrielle Aplin

campingunderstarswithyou:

fantasticarepickles:


this makes my heart ache

Silverstein always has been, and always will be my favorite poet because he doesn’t even need words in his poem to make people open their eyes.

I hope he will let his flowers grow back. 

campingunderstarswithyou:

fantasticarepickles:

this makes my heart ache

Silverstein always has been, and always will be my favorite poet because he doesn’t even need words in his poem to make people open their eyes.

I hope he will let his flowers grow back. 

  #for bad days    #this is important  

21 Tips to Keep Your Shit Together When You’re Depressed.


A while ago, I penned a fairly angry response to something circulating on the internet – the 21 Habits of Happy People. It pissed me off beyond belief, that there was an inference that if you weren’t Happy, you simply weren’t doing the right things.

I’ve had depression for as long as I can remember. It’s manifested in different ways. I did therapy. I did prozac. I did more therapy. My baseline is melancholic. I’d just made peace with it when I moved, unintentionally, to a place that had markedly less sunshine in the winter. I got seasonal depression. I got that under control. Then I got really, really sick. Turns out it’s a permanent, painful genetic disorder. My last pain-free day was four years ago.

So, this Cult of Happy article just set me off. Just… anger. Rage. Depression is serious – debilitating, often dangerous, and it’s got an enormous stigma. It leaves people to fend for themselves.

It’s bad enough without people ramming Happy Tips at you through facebook. There is no miracle behaviour change that will flip that switch for you. I know, I’ve tried.

A friend of mine suggested that I write something from my point of view because, surprisingly, I manage to give an outwards impression of having my shit together. I was shocked to hear this. And I find this comical, but I see her point. I’m functioning. I’ve adapted. I’m surprisingly okay. I think the medical term is “resilient”.

So, here it is.

My 21 Tips on Keeping Your Shit Together During Depression

1) Know that you’re not alone. Know that we are a silent legion, who, every day face the solipsism and judgement of Happy People Who Think We Just Aren’t Trying. There are people who are depressed, people who have been depressed, and people who just haven’t been hit with it yet.

2) Understand that the Happy People are usually acting out of some genuine (albeit misguided) concern for you, that it’s coming from a good place, even if the advice feels like you’re being blamed for your disease. Telling you these things makes them feel better, even if it makes you feel like shit. (If they insist on keeping it up, see #12.)

3) Enlist the help of a professional. See your doctor. You need to talk about the ugly shit, and there are people paid to listen and help you find your way to the light at the end of the tunnel.

4) Understand that antidepressants will only do so much. They’re useful, they’ll level you out and give you the time you need to figure out your own path to getting well. They can be helpful. There are lots to choose from. They may not be for you, and even if they are, they take some time to kick in. Conversely, they may not be for you. Work with your doctor.

5) Pick up a paintbrush, a pencil, an activity you got joy from in the past and re-explore that. Or, sign up for the thing you always wanted to try. There is a long history and link between depression and creativity. It’s a bright light of this condition, so utilize it to your best advantage.

6) Eat nutritionally sound, regular small meals. If you’re having trouble eating, try to focus on what you’d like to eat. I went through a whole six week episode of tomatoes and cream cheese on a bagel twice a day. Not great, but it was something – helpful context, I’m a recovered anorexic. Conversely, if all you want to do is scarf down crap, try to off-ramp it by downing a V-8 and doing #9 for 15 minutes, and see how you feel. Chucking your blood sugar all over hell’s half acre is going to make you feel worse.

7) While you’re doing #3, get some bloodwork done. If you’re low on iron or vitamin D, or if your hormone levels are doing the Macarena… these can all contribute to zapping your energy or switching your mood to Bleak As Hell.

8) If you’re in bed and the “insomnia hamsters”, as I like to call them, are on the wheel of your head, watch Nightly Business News on PBS. This has the effect of Nyquil. Swap out your coffee for herbal tea. If you just cannot sleep, try the next tip….

9) Learn how to meditate. Start by focusing on your breathing. Not sleep, not thoughts. In through the nose, out through the mouth. Meditation is focusing on being present in your body, not careening around in your brain. It may not be as good as sleep but it will give you some rest and recharge you.

10) Face a window as often as you can – at work, at home. Look out into the world. Watch. Observe. Try to find something you find pretty or interesting to focus on. And, handily remember that one in five of those people out there feel the way you do.

11) Cry. Better out than in. Sometimes it’s not convenient or career-enhancing to cry, so find a private place as best you can and let the tears go. Carry Kleenex and face wipes and extra concealer if you wear makeup. You can always claim allergies.

12) Any “friend” who resolutely believes that your depression is because you’re lazy, because you’re not trying hard enough, who blames you for not bootstrapping out of it- that friend needs to be cut off. Polite (#2) is one thing, but there is a limit. You don’t have to explain, you can just not respond. You feel badly enough, you don’t need their “assistance”.

13) Limit your time with people who drain you. You know who they are. Often you don’t have a choice- but you can put the meter on. And, subsequently, be aware of what you’re asking of those close to you.

14) Everyone has shit they’ve got to deal with. What you have been saddled with is your shit. Recognize, just as you’re not alone, you’re also not unique. The grass may look greener, you may be jealous or envious of others who don’t have to deal with depression, but you likely do not know everything that’s going on with them.

15) Let go or be dragged. This is an old Buddhist saying. It’s a very useful way to frame aspects of depression. Betrayal, anger, fear… letting go is a process – often a painful and difficult process - but it’s ultimately going to show you the path out of this terrible place. Repeating the mantra can help when you’re feeling gripped by these feelings.

16) Wear clothes that make you feel confident. It takes as much time to put on nice clothes as it does to put on sweatpants. You will want to wear the sweatpants. Fight the urge. The whole “look good/feel better” campaign isn’t limited to cancer and chemotherapy. Or women.

17) Avoid fictional drama and tragedy like the plague. No Grey’s Anatomy, no to The Notebook, or anything that won a Pulitzer prize. You’ve got enough going on In Real Life. Comedy only. Or trashy stuff. Old episodes of WonderWoman? I’ve got the box set. Mindless drivel, like the latest CGI blockbuster. Or clever, funny books. David Sedaris. Jenny Lawson. Fiction exists to elicit emotion, and the emotion you need to express most right now is laughter.

18) Simple exercise, if you can. It can be something as simple as taking the stairs up a flight, or walking around the block. It doesn’t have to be elaborate, it doesn’t have to involve climbing a mountain or running a marathon. Baby steps.

19) Depression will lie to you. Depression will try to tell you what others are thinking. That you are unloved and unworthy, that others think little of you or don’t care – or even wish you harm. You are not a psychic. Keep repeating that. “I am not a psychic”. Repeat. The only way to know what another person is thinking is to up and ask them.

20) If you are well and truly losing this battle, reach out to someone. I’ve been the random friendly-but-not-close person who has fielded the occasional outreach. I like to think I’m not judgemental and generally resourceful, and others have thought the same, so they called and asked. You know someone like me. And they will help you.

21) Forgive yourself. I’m writing out all these tips, and I can’t always muster the strength to even stick my nose outside, or walk up the stairs, or eat my vegetables. Today, I got outside for ten minutes. I will try again tomorrow. And I will try again the day after that.

  #this is important    #for bad days  
Tell us something about:
1. Your romantic interests
2. Your past relationship
3. Your current relationship
4. Your best friend
5. Your worst friend
6. Your parents
7. Your siblings
8. Your pets
9. Your dreams
10. Your day dreams
11. Your sleeping patterns
12. Your eating habits
13. Your hobbies
14. Your hopes
15. Your fears
16. Your confidence
17. Your anxieties
18. Your greatest adventure
19. Your worst mistake
20. Your emotions
21. Your thoughts
22. Your physical ills
23. Your eyes
24. Your ears
25. Your taste
26. Your bad habits
27. Your good habits
28. Your music
29. Your writing
30. Your philosphies
31. Your sexuality
32. Your likes
33. Your dislikes
35. Your fetishes
36. Your turn-offs
37. Your first sexual experience
38. Your last sexual experience
39. Your fantasties
40. Your favourite games
41. Your favourite books
42. Your favourite play
43. Your personality
44. Your quirks
45. Your sameness
46. Your depression
47. Your happiness
48. Your role model/inspiration
49. Your flexibility
50. Your clothes

A Beginner’s Guide to ASMR

raptorthedoctor:

ASMR stands for Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response. It can be defined as a perceptual phenomenon characterized by a distinct pleasurable tingling sensation in the head, scalp, back, or peripheral regions of the body in response to visual, auditory, olfactory, and/or cognitive stimuli.

Over the past few years, a closely knit community has formed on youtube of artists, often called ASMRtists who create videos designed to trigger ASMR. These videos might include things like binaural whispering, tapping, and scratching noises, roleplays, such as an eye exam or a checkup, or whispered vlogs or rambles, however, there are many more types of ASMR video that just those.

Why listen to ASMR?

Many people find ASMR relaxing. Many people who listen to the videos report that it helps them sleep, or helps relax them. The tingling sensation that some feel is very pleasant and can also be very relaxing. Many ASMR videos are in fact specifically aimed at relaxing the viewer, some are aimed at lowering the viewer’s stress or anxiety, while others are aimed at helping the viewer sleep. 

Here is a report by ABC World News if you want to learn more. Or you can google search ASMR.

So how can I get started?

If you’re interested in listening to ASMR, I’m going to compile a good list of channels to get you started. Please note that these are channels that I personally like, and that I’ve listened to. They will not include all the popular ASMR channels, just the ones that I have experience with. 

TheWaterWhispers: Probably one of the best known ASMR content creators. Ilse is awesome, and she produces awesome stuff. She has a ton of subscribers, I believe she has her own website, and she has a LOT of really great videos for all kinds of people. I believe she has a few trigger videos that can help you figure out what types of ASMR work best for you.

HeatherFeather: Heather Feather is awesome. She has a really light voice, and a lot of her videos cater to the geekier among us. She regularly includes references from video games, movies, and TV shows, and she has some very fun and whimsical ASMR videos. I highly recommend her. 

SpringbokASMR: A newer channel, but already one of my favorites. She has a really great voice and does some good roleplays and videos in general. Plus, she’s a magic player, which is always a plus to me! The only downside is that, since she’s a newer channel, she doesn’t have quite as many videos out as most of these other people.

ASMRrequests: Ally is another pretty popular ASMRtist. Her main claim to fame is her Departure Series, which is definitely worth a watch. I’m not sure if she plans to make an Episode three or not, but the two out are fun videos with some really impressive special effects. She likes to put out a lot of weekly features, which is somewhat different from a lot of other ASMRtists. 

GentleWhispering: Maria isn’t my favorite, but a lot of people really like her, and she’s another popular ASMRtist with a lot of content. She mostly does roleplays, if I remember correctly. She has some very fun ones, like one where she pretends to be a fairy.

VeniVidiVulpes: One of the first people who I listened to regularly when I first started listening. She took a pretty long break and she still doesn’t have quite as many videos as most of these other channels, but she’s awesome and I really enjoy her videos. You might too.

JustAWhisperingGuy: He’s got some good videos. In addition, he has some really cool custom made microphones that actually mimic the shape of human ears and they get some really incredible sounds.

EphemeralRift: I wasn’t sure whether to include him or not. His videos are… not for everyone. He does a lot of very weird videos. The one thing I really like is that he has a lot of recurring characters with different personalities and accents. My favorite is “Yurii Puuki” a very stereotypical Russian guy. He does a lot of more interesting and “out there” roleplays, so if you like something different, I’d give him a try. He also does ASMR beer reviews, if you’re into that sort of thing, and he’s a magic player (at least casually), and has a few videos where he goes through cards or opens up booster packs. Finally, he created this video which is really amazing (I’m a big fan of suds and fizzing). 

Conclusion

ASMR might seem a bit weird, but it can be really awesome and relaxing. If you’re interested, give it a try! I hope you enjoy the artists I’ve suggested and find your own favorites as well! Happy tingling!

  #kat    #baby    #<3    #asmr